You will be amazed at how your multiple birth children naturally learn to share and play with one another. You may not realize this until your child is placed in a social environment with other children that 'don't' share. Parents of multiple birth children alternate or take turns with multiple birth children in an effort to be fair. Children will remind you instantly who's turn it is next. No one wants to be last so it is very important to alternate activities. Who gets in the car first. Who gets to be the big helper and go inside first. Sharing by taking turns is something we must teach our children early on. There are great children videos on sharing. As they grow, you'll hear "I want to sit there!"
* Set the timer. When children want to play with the same toy, set a timer.
* Show them their toothbrush --- here is something they 'don't' share!
* Always celebrate good behavior by looking your child in the eye and kneeling to their level. Tell them "Wow! You picked up that piece of cereal all by yourself! How proud you must be of yourself! or "Wow! You shared your toy so nicely. How proud you must be of yourself. I am so proud of you too!"
* Explain to your children that they make new friends when they share. Other children will want to play with them.
"We have four children, and our vehicle seats seven passengers. The prime seats in our vehicle are the two back doors. We always use the child lock feature on the door so they cannot open the door while the vehicle is in motion. These are 'prime seats' because they are able to exit out of the right side of the vehicle when we drop them off to school. Who gets out first is important to them. How we solved this situation was easy. We had to assign days when two children were able to occupy the 'prime seats' on odd days and on even days the other two were able to sit there. Each month we would alternate odd, even, to keep it fair because one team got three days versus two during the week. They kept track of it for us. No more bickering or arguing in the car. We love that!" -Kidsrus mom
